The Lie of Feminism

feminism womenI am not a feminist. I never have been and never will be. The reason is simple: I refuse to accept the demonic lies that feminism has foisted on the world, thanks in part to the communist and atheistic UN. Should we have the right to vote, own property, and work outside the home? Yes. Do we have the right not to be beaten, raped, sold into prostitution, or abandoned? Yes. Do we also have the right to reject marriage and children? No.

Contrary to what some feminists believe, home is not a prison and men are not evil. They are not all abusers and rapists. Marriage and parenthood are not “bondage” either. Some men are bad and life with them is no picnic, but this fact does not give women the right to cast off men. Like Jesus Christ, husbands protect their wives. We cannot accept Satan’s lie of self-protection because, without a man, we have no umbrella for life’s storms. Some people take advantage of single women. They are less likely to take advantage of strong men because they know they cannot get away with it. So do we want to walk through life without an umbrella?

However, this is a surface problem. The demonic root of feminism is rejecting both the God who created women and the biblical roles he placed on them (Genesis 1:26-28, 2:22-25). Suddenly, marriage and parenthood are not enough. True, men can have both work and home lives. Women often cannot. They should be able to work outside the home if they want, and if the family’s financial situation requires it. A woman’s primary roles are still wife and mother, just as a man’s primary roles are husband and father. We cannot reject marriage or kill our unborn children. Not only are we sinning against God, we are also cheating ourselves of the one thing here on earth that will make us truly happy.

God told faithless Israel that he was her husband and she his bride (Isaiah 54:5, Hosea 1:16). Did this change Israel’s sinful behavior? No. She acted like Gomer, the adulterous wife who would rather play the prostitute to many lovers than remain faithful to her husband Hosea (Hosea 1:2-3, 3:1-3). Israel’s behavior was spiritually and morally insane. She was cheating herself of the one person who would make her eternally happy – Jehovah God.

man woman baby marriage familyFeminists today are no different. Calling marriage and parenthood “bondage” is spiritual and moral insanity. After Jesus saves us, we become his “servants.” Is this relationship bondage? No. Although bound to Christ, we are now free to love and obey God as he designed us. Only in a spiritually monogamous relationship with Jesus as our Bridegroom can we find real joy (Matthew 9:15, 25:1-10; John 3:29). The same is true of men and women in the wonderful relationship called marriage, a union that ideally makes two people one. Suddenly we can have fulfilling sex that produces the miracle of children, without the worry of STDs. We also have someone to share our life’s work load.

I can understand women rejecting men if they have been abused or abandoned. Wounds often produce fear about opening one’s heart to a relationship with the possibility of more abuse. Women who have not abused or abandoned, however, have swallowed a pack of lies in feminism. They have no excuse. So why do they alternately fear and reject men?

The cross is like Cupid’s arrow and love potion #9. Self-sacrifice is spiritual dynamite in our relationships. So if men expect women to trust them, then they must become trustworthy. Instead of abusing, cheating on, or abandoning their wives, men must must constantly walk beside and make sacrifices for them. Where are such men today?

I pray often for God to produce self-sacrificing men who will love women with their lives. Marriage and family are still not bondage, but rather God’s best for us. Will we accept these good and perfect gifts (James 1:17)? The choice is ours.


14 thoughts on “The Lie of Feminism

  1. I don’t think it’s that simple. I don’t think God would make all of us as individuals and then require us all to walk the same path. Paul (who was never married) even said that being single might well be the very best thing for some believers because then they can focus 100% of their time and energy to pleasing God, whereas wives and husbands will always be distracted by their need to care for each other and their children. If Paul is speaking words inspired by the Holy Spirit, then it would follow that these single men and women would have to support themselves, so a career is a must for them. Also, the percentage of regulars in the church is a majority of women, there’s nobody for the single women to up and marry in the church – a great many men simply refuse to go. So we’re not talking about a 50/50 split where all men marry all women. Assuming that it’s a 60/40 split, then 20% of women do not and will not have a ‘match’ at their church. The church isn’t the 4th person of the trinity, I know that it means well by emphasizing marriage – but they’ve totally dropped the ball when it comes to ministering to the people that God wants to be single.

    • Thank you for the comment. You raised some valid points. But I believe God wants most people to marry. Very few are “called” to singlehood. Those that aren’t haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right. Besides, in this article I’m really addressing the movement that shuns marriage altogether.

      FYI: Many people believe Paul was married (i.e. widowed) before he wrote portions of the New Testament. He knew too much about marriage.

      • I guess the real question is how to make people want to marry. So many young men are taught that divorce, alimony, custody battles, etc. will leave them utterly destitute and for that reason, they shouldn’t marry. So many young women are taught that marriage doesn’t prevent abuse, but hides it and disadvantages them with decreased chances of finding good work when they’re on their own, have almost no work history and almost no education for the good paying jobs and the need to support their children. Marriage is a tax deduction or good for legal documents / inheritance settlements – but the institution has a very bad reputation. It’s no wonder why the youngest generations are the least married compared to the ones that went before them – they didn’t just witness the destruction of their parents marriages, but lived through the messy after-effects for decades. Marriage seems to cause more problems than it solves, doubly so for Christian marriages because they have a church community full of perfectly happy married elders who can’t relate or help, often doing more harm than good.

      • Some of what you say is true, but that does not invalidate marriage as God’s institution for successful families and societies. Bad examples do not invalidate a good model. Marriage does not hide abuse or keep people from working. Why all the pessimism? Have you read what God says in the whole Bible about marriage? Don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater!

  2. I’m pessimistic because of cold, hard statistics: – this page says that 40-50% of marriages end in divorce and that 90% of Americans marry by age 50. – this is a page with all sorts of stats about domestic violence. – this page says that 77% of Americans say they are Christians.

    There is obviously overlap – Christians that get married, Christians that get divorced, Christians that are perpetrators of domestic violence and Christians that are victims of domestic violence. What am I left to conclude but possible:
    1.) These people obviously aren’t Christians because Christians are good people that don’t treat each other badly. Or,
    2.) These people are Christians, but they have a flawed understanding of Scripture and if they had a right understanding then their marriages would be perfect and they wouldn’t divorce each other. Or,
    3.) These people are Christians, and they have a right understanding of Scripture, but they’re going about it all wrong, If they went about it the right way, their marriages would be perfect and they wouldn’t divorce each other Or,
    4.) God likes the idea of marriage, but he doesn’t require it of all people. He knows that society changes and people do too. As long as two people finds something that works for them, where they respect each other and help each other, he’s fine with it … even if it doesn’t follow word for word his commands for marriage. He wouldn’t be bothered if a husband preferred to stay at home to raise the children and his wife financially supported the family or vise versa. What’s important is that a husband and wife work together to support each other through tough times and that they honor Him and love each other.

    I hope for #4, but I know that what’s going on is a bit of both #2 & #3, while #1 is possible, I doubt it would be common.

  3. Because a Christian victim of domestic violence is a dear friend of mine – I heard the absolute terror in her voice when she called for help and I will never, ever forget it. Because I have seen christian marriages crumble – three of them from extended family members. Because my churches ‘solution’ to dealing with divorce is to simply kick out the divorcing couple from church so that they maintain their 100% happy healthy marriage rate. No wonder I’m so pessimistic about it – I hope I’m not a magnet for bad marriage luck.

    • I understand being burned from personal experience. As I said before, my parents divorced and the church treated my mom horribly because of it. I seriously don’t think your friend’s spouse was a Christian. If he were, he wouldn’t treat her that way. Period. Yes, churches and individuals screw up marriage. Many people are selfish. That doesn’t mean we throw in the towel!

      Marriage DOMINATES the Bible (Genesis 2, Song of Solomon 1-8, Matthew 25, Ephesians 5, Revelation 19-20, etc). Jesus Christ is the Bridegroom, the church his bride. He invites everyone to the “marriage supper of the Lamb” (Rev. 19). “As a young man marries a virgin, so shall your sons marry you. As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you” (Isaiah 62:5). God is the best matchmaker too: Adam and Eve, Isaac and Rebekah, Ruth and Boaz, David and Abigail, Ahasuerus and Esther, Mary and Joseph, etc. We can’t love God and reject marriage, a beautiful relationship he created. He doesn’t change and neither should we. So please don’t let our sick post-modern culture (or bad experiences) trump God’s design and the Bible. PLEASE.

  4. Quite a few examples of marriage in the Old Testament of the Bible fit the description of polygamy – husbands who had multiple wives. (But each wife being allowed only the one husband.) I’m guessing that’s a cultural difference and we would not today try to re-instate as it the most traditional format of marriage.

  5. I don’t want to jump into this conversation. But your Q&A, Do we also have the right to reject marriage and children? No, needs clarification. Even if women do not reject marriage and motherhood for others, they may reject it for themselves personally for the reasons Jamie Carter mentions. They do not want to get married or they cannot find the right mate.

  6. I liked what Jesus said about not being able to serve two masters at the same time. What feminists don’t seem to realize is that you’re always a sort of “slave” to someone. The only question is which master you choose (the good one or the evil one).

    Many “feminists” don’t really hate men, because they use men for sex. What they hate is commitment, while they worship the carnal pleasures of sex as a false god.

    • Well said! The issue is commitment, which feminists consider bondage (even drowning). Of course, it’s the same in the spiritual realm. Self-sacrifice at the cross is like drowning.

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