I am not a feminist. I never have been and never will be. The reason is simple: I refuse to accept the demonic lies that feminism has foisted on the world, thanks in part to the communist and atheistic UN. Should we have the right to vote, own property, and work outside the home? Yes. Do we have the right not to be beaten, raped, sold into prostitution, or abandoned? Yes. Do we also have the right to reject marriage and children? No.
Contrary to what some feminists believe, home is not a prison and men are not evil. They are not all abusers and rapists. Marriage and parenthood are not “bondage” either. Some men are bad and life with them is no picnic, but this fact does not give women the right to cast off men. Like Jesus Christ, husbands protect their wives. We cannot accept Satan’s lie of self-protection because, without a man, we have no umbrella for life’s storms. Some people take advantage of single women. They are less likely to take advantage of strong men because they know they cannot get away with it. So do we want to walk through life without an umbrella?
However, this is a surface problem. The demonic root of feminism is rejecting both the God who created women and the biblical roles he placed on them (Genesis 1:26-28, 2:22-25). Suddenly, marriage and parenthood are not enough. True, men can have both work and home lives. Women often cannot. They should be able to work outside the home if they want, and if the family’s financial situation requires it. A woman’s primary roles are still wife and mother, just as a man’s primary roles are husband and father. We cannot reject marriage or kill our unborn children. Not only are we sinning against God, we are also cheating ourselves of the one thing here on earth that will make us truly happy.
God told faithless Israel that he was her husband and she his bride (Isaiah 54:5, Hosea 1:16). Did this change Israel’s sinful behavior? No. She acted like Gomer, the adulterous wife who would rather play the prostitute to many lovers than remain faithful to her husband Hosea (Hosea 1:2-3, 3:1-3). Israel’s behavior was spiritually and morally insane. She was cheating herself of the one person who would make her eternally happy – Jehovah God.
Feminists today are no different. Calling marriage and parenthood “bondage” is spiritual and moral insanity. After Jesus saves us, we become his “servants.” Is this relationship bondage? No. Although bound to Christ, we are now free to love and obey God as he designed us. Only in a spiritually monogamous relationship with Jesus as our Bridegroom can we find real joy (Matthew 9:15, 25:1-10; John 3:29). The same is true of men and women in the wonderful relationship called marriage, a union that ideally makes two people one. Suddenly we can have fulfilling sex that produces the miracle of children, without the worry of STDs. We also have someone to share our life’s work load.
I can understand women rejecting men if they have been abused or abandoned. Wounds often produce fear about opening one’s heart to a relationship with the possibility of more abuse. Women who have not abused or abandoned, however, have swallowed a pack of lies in feminism. They have no excuse. So why do they alternately fear and reject men?
The cross is like Cupid’s arrow and love potion #9. Self-sacrifice is spiritual dynamite in our relationships. So if men expect women to trust them, then they must become trustworthy. Instead of abusing, cheating on, or abandoning their wives, men must must constantly walk beside and make sacrifices for them. Where are such men today?
I pray often for God to produce self-sacrificing men who will love women with their lives. Marriage and family are still not bondage, but rather God’s best for us. Will we accept these good and perfect gifts (James 1:17)? The choice is ours.